Unity Candles... Unity Sand?

[angiet05]

Hey Ladies,
Our wedding will be outside, so we can't do the unity candle ceremony. Can you let me know some other ideas? I read on another post some things about a unity sand ceremony or a rose ceremony? Please explain. I thought the unity candle was usually in the ceremony.

angie

[Christina0902]

the sand ceremony.....

[SoonToBeWed]

Just a thought if you really want to do the Unity Candle ceremony, just buy large hurricane candle holders. This way they are deep enough that the wind can't blow them out and you can still get to the candles.

[Christina0902]

Hey Ladies,
Our wedding will be outside, so we can't do the unity candle ceremony. Can you let me know some other ideas? I read on another post some things about a unity sand ceremony or a rose ceremony? Please explain. I thought the unity candle was usually in the ceremony.

angie

some couples do it differently....such as a sand ceremony....you and your husband both get a vase (i think it is a vase) and you both pour it into a larger vase....

[jay052582]

We are going to have a sand ceremony. It is the same concept as the unity candle, just without a flame.

[LaurieAnn]

We were going to do the unity sand but since Roses meant more to us we went with the rose ceremony... Terry had never been given a rose before in his life so it was even more special...

The roses we used are sitting on our signing table...
http://i151.photobucket.com/albums/s157/KiviWedding/Kivi146.jpg


UNITY SAND CEREMONY

(after the minister reads the statement below, pour the two containers of sand into the third container simultaneously.
_______________ and ______________, today you join your separate lives together. The two separate bottles of sand symbolize your separate lives, separate families and separate sets of friends. They represent all that you are and all that you’ll ever be as an individual. They also represent your lives before today. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be.

(If children are a part of the new family, the sand ceremony can involve them also. Some families choose a different color for each member.)

The Rose Ceremony

The Rose Ceremony is simple yet profoundly moving. The bride and groom exchange two red roses, symbolizing the giving and receiving of their love for each other throughout their entire married life. The Rose Ceremony also conveys how to use the rose and its symbolism in difficult times in order to forgive each other.

"Your gift to each other for your wedding today has been your wedding rings - which shall always be an outward demonstration of your vows of love and respect; and a public showing of your commitment to each other.

You now have what remains the most honorable title which may exist between a man and a woman - the title of "husband" and "wife." For your first gift as husband and wife, that gift will be a single rose.

In the past, the rose was considered a symbol of love and a single rose always meant only one thing - it meant the words "I love you." So it is appropriate that for your first gift - as husband and wife - that gift would be a single rose.

Please exchange your first gift as husband and wife. In some ways it seems like you have not done anything at all. Just a moment ago you were holding one small rose - and now you are holding one small rose. In some ways, a marriage ceremony is like this. In some ways, tomorrow is going to seem no different than yesterday. But in fact today, just now, you both have given and received one of the most valuable and precious gifts of life - one I hope you always remember - the gift of true and abiding love within the devotion of marriage.

_________ and _____________, I would ask that where ever you make your home in the future - whether it be a large and elegant home - or a small and graceful one - that you both pick one very special location for roses; so that on each anniversary of this truly wonderful occasion you both may take a rose to that spot both as a recommitment to your marriage - and a recommitment that THIS will be a marriage based upon love.

In every marriage there are times where it is difficult to find the right words. It is easiest to hurt who we most love. It is easiest to be most hurt by who we most love. It might be difficult some time to words to say "I am sorry" or "I forgive you"; "I need you" or "I am hurting". If this should happen, if you simply can not find these words, leave a rose at that spot which both of you have selected - for that rose than says what matters most of all and should overpower all other things and all other words.

That rose says the words: "I still love you." The other should accept this rose for the words which cannot be found, and remember the love and hope that you both share today.

__________ and ________, if there is anything you remember of this marriage ceremony, it is that it was love that brought you here today, it is only love which can make it a glorious union, and it is by love which your marriage shall endure."

[neebelung]

We attended a (outdoor) wedding in May where they did the sand ceremony and it was just beautiful... we're thinking of incoporating it into our ceremony as well.

[VanWest]

At my wedding we did the sand ceremony with my step children, alot of guest really loved it.

[maeberha]

i remember first seeing the sand on the Bachelor or Bachelorette. I think it was Trisa and her guy - they did the sand.

I've seen a lot of couples who have kids do t also - a different color for each child, and they layer it with the husband and wife sand on the top. You can also do a different color for each family, and then the husband wife sand on top

[DMcG1977]

You can also use a shadow box/picture frame, I really like this idea. When you pour the sand in it goes around the picture
http://i16.photobucket.com/albums/b9/DMcG1977/47b5cc11b3127cce96615d84f65f0000001.jpg

[ISIDEJOSH]

You can also use a shadow box/picture frame, I really like this idea. When you pour the sand in it goes around the picture
http://i16.photobucket.com/albums/b9/DMcG1977/47b5cc11b3127cce96615d84f65f0000001.jpg


Were did you find that that would be really cool to do :-D

[jay052582]

You can also use a shadow box/picture frame, I really like this idea. When you pour the sand in it goes around the picture
http://i16.photobucket.com/albums/b9/DMcG1977/47b5cc11b3127cce96615d84f65f0000001.jpg

I love that idea and I think I am going to do it! I would like to put a pic of Kevin, my daughter, and I in the frame and have all three of us pour the sand in.

[maeberha]

but what happens if you want to change the picture? is it removable

[jay052582]

but what happens if you want to change the picture? is it removable

I didnt think of that. I dont think I would want to change it though. It would be a great keepsake and a wonderful memory of that day.

[DMcG1977]

I'm not sure if you can change the pic...probably not, I found it on the knot but they had just bought a shadow box picture frame from Target. I think you can also get these at Michael's and Joann. I would go and look at the shadow box and see if you can change the pics out