View Full Version : would it be rude?
07-20-2007, 09:16 AM
everybody who will be invited to our wedding is going to have to fly since we're doing it in a place where neither of us grew up, so i was just wondering since everyone is going to have to spend on getting to our wedding, would it be rude of us to even do gift registries? I just dont want to appear like we are being greedy by asking for gifts and asking them to travel.
07-20-2007, 02:04 PM
It's not rude because you're leaving the option up to the guest as to whether or not they'd like to buy a gift. It's just there for their predisposal and judgement! Now saying something like, "You MUST give us a gift or else.....!!!" would be rude... lol!
07-20-2007, 02:09 PM
i also agree. they don't have to buy you a gift, but i'm sure your loved ones will. My godparents, aunt/uncle, and sister's godparents came in from either New York or Michigan. All of his aunts/uncles (4 couples) came from either PA or Texas and everyone gave us very lovely gifts
07-20-2007, 02:24 PM
I agree also, it's not rude at all. Just make sure you register for things in different price ranges so they can have options.
07-20-2007, 02:35 PM
It's not rude at all, and your guests will wecome it. It would be rude to tell them directly about it.
07-25-2007, 05:36 PM
i find the whole asking for gifts thing really awkward as well. we are travelling around central america for our honeymoon, and so want money to help pay for this trip, but we do not know how to ask without sounding rude.
07-25-2007, 05:48 PM
can understand what you can created is a honeymoon fund which you can take a look me which is is at. Honeymoon fund (http://www.honeyfund.com/wedding/isideandjoshua)
07-25-2007, 11:51 PM
I don't think it's rude ... not only is it their choice to buy you a gift ... it's also their choice to travel to your wedding. No one is forcing them to do either.
07-26-2007, 01:30 PM
it's not rude, you aren't forcing anyone to fly out to your wedding. if your family and friends want to fly out, then it's up to them, you should not feel bad! Mike and I are having our wedding in CA, and we have family and friends who are flying out, and we are still going to register. the only thing that Mike and I decided was that our bridal party was not to get us a gift. My MOH was thinking about getting us a gift, and we made sure to let the bridal party know that them flying out wasa gift for us.
07-26-2007, 09:17 PM
thank you isidejosh, that honeymoon fund is a great idea and great website - thank you very much. i've got so many ideas off you girls - this forum is great! x
07-26-2007, 09:54 PM
Not rude at all. Just think, if you don't give them registry cards, you might just have quite a few people calling you asking you what you want. :)
07-31-2007, 05:48 PM
no i would just do one and don't advertise it, just mention to closest ones and they can spread the word
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