Gift to the Officiant

[gengsky]

We are getting married in a catholic church. Our deacon has met with us four times (an hour each) then he will preside at the wedding. My question is, what is a good amount to give him as a gift? He has spent a lot of time with both me and FH. I am really clueless about this. Help.

[MrsWarren2B]

We only gave our priest $50. We only met with him two times before the ceremony. If the church doesn't give a set amount, then give whatever you want to.

[kobfield2007]

We had to pay the Catholic Church to get married there. It was like $455. But that's only b/c I put up a fight and haggled the price (I KNOW I KNOW... but they wanted to charge me the non-parishioner fee and I'd been a member of that church since I was baptized there and they said I was a non-parishioner b/c I didn't get envelopes, so I argued!). :)

[gengsky]

We had to pay the Catholic Church to get married there. It was like $455. But that's only b/c I put up a fight and haggled the price (I KNOW I KNOW... but they wanted to charge me the non-parishioner fee and I'd been a member of that church since I was baptized there and they said I was a non-parishioner b/c I didn't get envelopes, so I argued!). :)

Really? You were not considered a parishioner b/c you didn't get envelopes? :eek: That's so Catholic. :D :D

[kobfield2007]

Really? You were not considered a parishioner b/c you didn't get envelopes? :eek: That's so Catholic. :D :D

oh I know. I through a fit!! I was like my grandpa has been getting envelopes since he moved to this city in 1965 and my mom's been getting her own envelopes since she got married in 1980, I'm a parishioner.

[annaromero]

I plan on doing an Amex card of $200.00

[jessienga]

I plan on giving him $50.00. He's my cousin though.

[JohnandBrandie08]

According to the Church we have to give him $60.00 and that's all he's getting lol

[Denisa]

We gave the pastor that married us $100. We met with him 5 times and spent an hour with us each time. He was really great though, he was so kind and he kinda did it on short notice, so we were very thankful for his time spent with us. :)

[anschuier]

We did $300, but we have quite a relationship with our Priest.

[rosiec]

Since we're getting married in Canada, but are in Japan right now, we've never even met the priest who's going to marry us. We have been seeing a priest here, though, to do our preparation stuff and he's been super awesome. He's filing all the paperwork for us and is coordinating with the Canadian priest. We'll probably make a 10,000 yen (about $100) donation to his little parish, cuz I don't think he'll accept anything for himself.

We have to pay the church back home $350 to get married there (plus $2500 for rental of the church basement banquet hall!), so we don't even feel like giving that priest anything. Should we???

[maeberha]

if you really like him, i'd do $150-200 and also invite him to the rehearsal dinner and the reception (that is if you feel comfortable doing that).

[gengsky]

Thanks Ladies. Since he spent a lot of time working with me and FH we've decided to give him $400. We're in DC and everything here seems to be higher. Also, he was very attentive to emails when we have questions. We invited him to the RD and reception but he declined.