View Full Version : I kinda feel like a bi**h...
01-24-2006, 03:54 AM
I have two opposing situations here.. First, I have members of my family that will have SMALL children at the time of the wedding (and I mean 2 and under). At the same time I have members of my family that have kids ages 3-8 and don't really like to keep watch over them. So my first issue is that, I don't want to spend the entire time worrying what the kids might be getting into. And I also don't want my parents to end up the babysitters, cause I know they will.
My second situation is that... we are dealing with a REALLY tight budget. The kids in the age range of 3-8 cost the same for meals that they are probably not going to eat anyway. I don't know if we can afford all this. Then there is the issue of parents not having anyone they can leave the kids with.
I seriously don't know what to do!! I can't say no to some kids and not others.. and I feel like I am being rude and inconsiderate. Some girls have told me the 'Kids Korner" but I don't have anyone who can stay and watch them. Plus, 6 year olds are not going to want to stay there. *BLAH!!!!*
Sorry to vent for so long. I'm just running out of ideas and no one else can come up with anything either. Thanks for listening girls!:o
01-24-2006, 04:21 AM
i feel your pain. we are allowing kids (but crossing our fingers that ppl will get sitters). we were going to make a kids area, but then who watches them? we are trying to do generational tables of the same families with kids, grandkids, gparents and hoping for the best!
01-24-2006, 04:58 AM
we're having kids, and an adjoining kids room set up with stuff to keep them occupied, their own mini-buffet, and [crossing fingers here] someone to be a baby-sitter (probably a teen friend a local guest's church, or maybe a young substitute teacher).
01-24-2006, 12:26 PM
What we are doing is, we went to this little daycare in our town and asked if anyone wanted to earn 85 bucks. We got 3 babysitters to come. You could ask a daycare in town to see if they would like to help. Plus, they are professionals, and they learned from the state.
01-24-2006, 12:39 PM
Just a suggestion as far as the food. Here is what I am doing to keep down the cost. As you stated YES the kids will eat but NO they will not eat as much as any adult especially at that age. So when I gave my caterer our # of guest I left out ALL children under the age of 10. Trust me this saved us Thousands on our food. Just a suggestion.
Oh and why not get coloring books or little activity books from the local $1 store this way the kids have something to occupy themselves and neither you or your parents need to play babysitter or worry about when these kids are doing.
This is one reason why I am doing seperate favors for the kids because we willl have a large number of young children there, and I don't want them getting bored quickly and making my wedding reception into chaos with children running and screaming everywhere.
02-23-2006, 04:03 AM
We aren't allowing kids to come...but we don't like kids, our youngest guest is 14. Two couples in our group of friends are having babies soon, one is due this week & the other is due in May. We've made it clear that we would like them to come but to leave the babies with their parents!
02-23-2006, 07:18 AM
Im in the same situation. My Sis in law to be has 3 kids by 3 different guys. Needless to say shes VERY irresponsible and never watches them but of course we have to invite them. I told her she had to watch her kids flat out. She has to watch her kids and isn't allowed to drink! Im kind of a meanie but oh well.
Anyways its YOUR day do whatever you want and don't worry about what other ppl think. You can flat out tell them youre worried and they should understand!
02-23-2006, 05:27 PM
we did kids could come to wedding and reception to eat only.. afterwards they had to go!! the only exceptions were my nephews and neices and 1 friend. that was it... it invites clearly read (reception invites) this will be an adults only noone younger than (specify age) allowed. Please make nessacary(sp?) arrangements for your younger children!!
02-24-2006, 01:33 PM
we aren't having too many kids, but we are making coloring books, and buying cute buckets and filling them with crayons to hopefully keep them occupied. *keeping my fingers crossed though*
This worked at our wedding. Yay!!!!!!! :D hehe
02-27-2006, 08:13 PM
We have 3 kids in the wedding, so they are automatically invited. Since they are invited, I can't stat turning down others. Luckily though the three in the wedding are the youngest I have to deal with. There are potentially 2 babies that could come, but that doesn't bug me too much. For the three kids at the reception, we will hire a babysitter, and have a room upstairs with stuff to do (including Disney videos!)
Do what you are most comfortable with, but remember it would be rude to invite one but not all...so you have to go one way or the other on this...no grey...
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