Yippee!!!! My board idea got added!!!!

[EbonyNIvory]

Yipee!!!!! I'm so glad admin added this board!!! I was starting to wonder if it was going to happen. Anyways, the main reason I wanted this was for all of us involved in interracial/ intercultural/ interfaith marriages/ relationships to be able to get together and talk about some of the issues that are unique to our situation and help those that are trying to create a wedding that may reflect that.

[Jacoby2Seelen]

I noticed that this morning! Congrats! :D hehe

[Bianca]

Woo hoo! :) If any of you notice any threads that should moved over here, let me know so I can do that! :)

[pureevil]

My Fiance's a Catholic...really he goes to church every Sunday & I'm not...I'm the complete opposite!
I know we won't be able to get married in a Catholic church & I'm actually pretty happy about that! (it saves the whole ceremony argument) But to make him happy I'd like to see if we could get a priest to bless our marriage after the fact. I'm going to ask him to ask his priest about it. Even if it's not possible, I'll get brownie points for asking!

[Faerievert]

does it count as intercultural if I'm a liberal yankee marrying into a conservative southern family? (thank god FH is a little more open minded after coming to school up north)

[SoonToBeWed]

Yeah. Now we have a place to share our thoughts and issues. So far we have struck lucky we have not had to deal with any issues as far as the fact that we are inter-racial.

The only issue I see in the future is if I can't have kids (lost one a couple of years back, almost dies because of it), we are going to adopt and I already told FH I want to adopt from Japan since he is Japanese and our kids will have to deal with the inter-racial parents issues as it is and I figuere make life a little easier for them and at least make sure they look like one of their parents. See his Brother married a white woman as well (whiter than I am, blonde and paper white) but the kids look like their father.

I have to say thank god we have not had an issues with the church aside from one of these days before we get married I do need to join the church. See my FH is methodist and we have been attending the church (he joined about 10 yrs or so before we met) for the past 5 years together but I have put off joining the church until closer to our wedding. Call me negative but I did not want to go through the joining of the church and then have things not work out. I tend to be the type that when a relationship does not work out I cut myself off from everything and everyone that I associated with during that relationship.

However I do have to say I am glad that I started attending the church when I did because the pastor who is marrying us is our old pastor, he left the church after 19 years of service (retired). He is the one that is marrying us. I have to say from day one I had a connection with him and I think part of it has to do with our backgrounds. See we are both what I call good old country red-knecks. He is really sweet and I felt like he was never looking down on me because I never attended church before and he welcomed me into the church with open arms.

[May6bride]

it is nice having a place to come to discuss these issues....i am a non-baptized protestant canadian and my FI is an Orthodox Serbian. Quite a lot of issues have come up regarding the ceremony. We are getting married in his church and I am getting baptized in his church. I guess its mostly the MIL that is the biggest problem, she wants the whole wedding to be Serbian, with absolutely no canadian traditions, that is so not going to happen. so its been a battle, but the battle should only last another couple months and it will all be over....lol (until the kids come)

[EbonyNIvory]

Yea!!!! I;m so happy you all came in!!! I'm actually a little busy right now, so I'll be back to talk about our situation a little later!!!! I'm so happy!!!!!

[EbonyNIvory]

FH and i have had a rough 2 days and now it's all peachy again so I'm finally adding my little story.!!! Anyways, I'm black and my FH is white hence the screenname ebonyNivory. We've had some issues with family members, (well, I guess I should say that other people has had some issues with us) but it has definitely gotten a little better with time. We did actually have one incident with a complete stranger making a smart comment, but usually they (people that don't know us) look and keep their comments to themselves. The way I see it is that who are they to judge us? They are absolutely nothing to us and the only people that have to deal with and be happy with our decision is ourselves.

[crannberryjenn]

I am happy to see that there is a board on this topic. Its great. thanks for the idea :)

[stevesgirl]

I'm in an interracial relationship. Luckily we live in New York City so we don't come across that many people who are blatant with their dislike. Our families love us together so I count myself extremely lucky.:)

[soontobemrsiwa]

ah me too sorta. Rob's half japanese ( his moms white ) but sometimes we get the looks. especially if we go to china town hehe all the older chinese ladies stare me down. haha It doesnt bother me though. My mom says she is going to have UN babies because my sister married a black guy and now robs asian haha now only if my lil brother will find a indian/latina girl hehe

[stevesgirl]

ah me too sorta. Rob's half japanese ( his moms white ) but sometimes we get the looks. especially if we go to china town hehe all the older chinese ladies stare me down. haha It doesnt bother me though. My mom says she is going to have UN babies because my sister married a black guy and now robs asian haha now only if my lil brother will find a indian/latina girl hehe

lol! That would be the UN. I am the first non-white person to enter my FI's family. Luckily for him, my sister is in a longterm relationship with a white guy and my other sister is married to an Arab and my cousin is married to a white guy and my other cousin is engaged to a Japanese woman. My family sure likes to mix it up!:D

[soontobemrsiwa]

lol nice. its weird for my family because i grew up in all-white ville, pa we didnt even have jewish people in my school district. So total culture shock to my parents hehe they love rob and scott ( my sisters husband ) so whatever let the neighbors talk :)

[stevesgirl]

lol nice. its weird for my family because i grew up in all-white ville, pa we didnt even have jewish people in my school district. So total culture shock to my parents hehe they love rob and scott ( my sisters husband ) so whatever let the neighbors talk :)

That is exactly how I feel about it. lol.:p

[fionam]

My FH is black and I'm white. Although I'm from the UK and he's Canadian, we live in Holland. Funny thing is, Holland is supposed to be soooooo liberal and forward-thinking but we come up against "The Look" (know which one I mean?!) and The Comments more here than anywhere!
As far as both our immediate families are concerned everything is AOK, no big deal either way.
When I visited his family in Ottawa for the first time it was like a breath of fresh air. Intercultural relationships of all kinds abound, no looks, no comments, no nothing. Just people getting on with their lives. Can't wait till we finally move there!

[renakins]

I think this is a great new topic to have. At the moment im too upset to write how my partners church makes me feel, but now i understand how religion can affect relationships. If anyones dealing with a strict orthodox church let me know im not alone!!!

[dewdropfairy]

Yay, this makes me happy!!!


My fiance is Filipino, and I'm white. We don't get a whole lot of flack from family...a large amount of his family has married Caucasians, but his dad is still kinda upset his only son is not marrying a Filipina bride (So says FH. He might just be trying to scare me though ;)

And I don't really talk to my family much so even though I'm SURE they've had things to say about it...I don't have to hear about it. And the one family member I'd care if she said anything is a lesbian, so I'm 110% sure she's not going to throw stones LOL

I've had some issues with a few people, but more in the way that they were talking about how "interracial couples are just so gross" or "if it's not white it's not alright", and I had to school them on how their inconsiderate opinions are small minded and best left not shared with me. Haven't had much trouble since...

Ooh, ooh, something neat I found:
http://images.auctionworks.com/hi/70/69920/ethic_mix_wedding_cake_topper_with_mark.jpg
an Interchangeable Ethnic Bride Groom Wedding Cake Topper


I've been looking for one of those for months now, and I'm geeked that someone finally caught on to the market.


Thankfully he and I are of similar faiths. His mom may have an issue about our choice of denomination (or rather choice of non-denomination...), but at least there's no tension between he and I about it...

[weddinggirl]

I am white and my FH is Maloto (not sure if I spelled that right lol) so in other words his mom is white and his dad is black. He looks just like his dad though and took all the black traits lol. It is so funny you all brought up "the look" I think we have all seen that from time to time. I find there isn't that much of a problem with it besides when you come up against the older generation. That is usually the only time we get looks or hear little whispers. We try not to let it bother us and the way we both look at it is that when they were raised there were no multi cultural classrooms just white. They were preached at to believe that we are not to mix. Which don't get me wrong it is 100% incorrect but I can see where they are coming from, when that is what they all learned growing up. I was never raised with any of these issues and was taught that everyone is the same...which is so true. One issue though that gets me mad everytime is the police. He drives a really nice car with the kit and wheels and whole works. Well he would get pulled over EVERY DAY and I am not over exaggerating either. Never get a ticket was just told some stupid excuse everytime. So we went out put illigal tint on the windows so they can't see in (which we can get a ticket for now also) but you know what he has never been pulled over since and it has been 3 years. So it does show that ppl still need to change and stop judging everyone by thier race and not everyone has hit that stage yet. We are happy though and that is all that is important. His family loves me and my family loves him. With the wedding we have had no real issues though cause we are both not very religious at all and not having religion really in the ceremony either. The families so far have been okay with everything the two of us have come up with...which is nice lol

[MacnV06]

I think I'm a little late on this one. I'm black and my FH is Irish ( he has the most beautiful green eyes I have ever seen). I thought that his family wouldn't accept me but they have ..with open arms! Some of my family members don't agree with us getting married. I had one cousin (who exclusively dates white women) tell me that "they" are okay to date but don't bring them in the family. Needless to say he's not invited to the wedding.

[beckei04]

That comment was so wack...

[weddinggirl]

That comment was so wack...

I agree pretty retarded theory.....

[rosiec]

I'm Filipino, so my ancestry is already pretty mixed up with native Filipino, Spanish, Chinese and Portuguese. My older sister married a Canadian who's father is German and mother is British; my older brother is marrying a Chilean; my FH is a few generations Canadian whose roots are Scottish and Irish (we've been kidding around about having him wear a Barong and a kilt!)

My parents have welcomed every new member of our family without any regard about their race/ethnicity, thank God! As long as our partners make us happy, that's all that matters to them. I still have a younger sister and brother to go, so I'm sure future Thanksgivings/Christmases are gonna look like a UN summit!

I still find it hard to imagine that there are still people out there who are so narrow-minded about this...

[MacnV06]

Are you saying that what I said was wrong or what my cousin thinks is wack?

[weddinggirl]

I was talking about your cousin...you can date them but not marry them...come on!!

[MacnV06]

He's an ass! ( can I say that on here?) Some how he got word that we moved our wedding closer and called OUR house last night. My FH knows his views on interracial marriages so he wasn't too happy to hear him on the other line. When he came to get me he asked if I would mind if he spoke his peace to my cousin. I said I didn't care.....needless to say he REALLY won't be coming to the wedding now!

[weddinggirl]

Wow what did you FH say to him...way to go someone has to put him in his place.

[weddinggirl]

Yay, this makes me happy!!!


My fiance is Filipino, and I'm white. We don't get a whole lot of flack from family...a large amount of his family has married Caucasians, but his dad is still kinda upset his only son is not marrying a Filipina bride.

And I don't really talk to my family much so even though I'm SURE they've had things to say about it...I don't have to hear about it. And the one family member I'd care if she said anything is a lesbian, so I'm 110% sure she's not going to throw stones LOL

I've had some issues with a few people, but more in the way that they were talking about how "interracial couples are just so gross" or "if it's not white it's not alright", and I had to school them on how their inconsiderate opinions are small minded and best left not shared with me. Haven't had much trouble since...

Ooh, ooh, something neat I found:
http://images.auctionworks.com/hi/70/69920/ethic_mix_wedding_cake_topper_with_mark.jpg
an Interchangeable Ethnic Bride Groom Wedding Cake Topper


I've been looking for one of those for months now, and I'm geeked that someone finally caught on to the market.


Thankfully he and I are of similar faiths. His mom may have an issue about our choice of denomination (or rather choice of non-denomination...), but at least there's no tension between he and I about it...

I ordered these for my cake... we bought G1 and B4. It looks so much like him too...I just love them!!

[Eloise1984]

Good thinking EbonyNIvory! I'm not exactly having an interfaith marriage, but I'm English with family in England and Belgium, and I'm marrying a guy from Gibraltar. So we have to make our site, as well as the wedding, easily understandable for three different cultures and languages! It's going to be a challenge! We're also moving back to his home to have a family, which I'd never envisioned myself doing; the things you do for love!

The cake toppers are cute, especially the bald one, since my man's losing his hair at the ripe old age of 27! But it's about time they brought out the plus size figures...