Gords1babygirl
05-31-2006, 08:38 PM
ok...we realize that the "norm" for weddings to to have booze at the reception, something that if I were attending somebody else's wedding I would be able to avoid politely and leave it at that, since I've never been a drinker. My FH (now) would also be able to do the same...however this has not always been the case.
My FH I'm proud to say has been in recovery for 5 years without a slip. As such our decision when we first started planning our wedding was to have a "dry" event. As far as either of us are concerned why should he be "required" to pay for everyone else to get sh*tfaced on HIS day?? My family admittedly were a little suprised that it was going to be an alcohol free event, but when explained the FH is "in recovery" (something for the record I really don't think should have had to be explained to anyone) they have absolutely no problem with it.
Additionally we're opting for a very kid friendly event, and personally I really don't feel that "kid friendly" and "excessive free flowing booze" go together.
FH's family on the other hand has come up with the brilliant decision that they're still going to drink, but they're going to BYOB and keep it in their cars and go out for a nip now and then, all the while trying HARD to make FH feel guilty for the decision to have a dry event, trying to pressure him into spending the extra for a bartender, corkage fees and booze (we would have to supply the booze for the bar rather than just have the venue operate a cash bar). These people have seen him living out of his truck because of his drinking (I didn't know him at that point) It boggles my effin mind how some people are!!! I've lost one hell of a lot of respect for my FIL's over this, to the point I'm steps away from saying that perhaps anyone that can't respect that FH's turned his life around and has chosen sobriety, maybe shouldn't be at the wedding. (I never would though, it would hurt him for his family not to be there, and there's not a thing in the world I could do to hurt this guy)
Just needed to vent (already let off steam beating up a pillow while the kids slept)
This so far is my only real wedding stress...I went into the planning deciding that there is nothing THAT important to turn Bridezilla over...however I think I may have found one.
My FH I'm proud to say has been in recovery for 5 years without a slip. As such our decision when we first started planning our wedding was to have a "dry" event. As far as either of us are concerned why should he be "required" to pay for everyone else to get sh*tfaced on HIS day?? My family admittedly were a little suprised that it was going to be an alcohol free event, but when explained the FH is "in recovery" (something for the record I really don't think should have had to be explained to anyone) they have absolutely no problem with it.
Additionally we're opting for a very kid friendly event, and personally I really don't feel that "kid friendly" and "excessive free flowing booze" go together.
FH's family on the other hand has come up with the brilliant decision that they're still going to drink, but they're going to BYOB and keep it in their cars and go out for a nip now and then, all the while trying HARD to make FH feel guilty for the decision to have a dry event, trying to pressure him into spending the extra for a bartender, corkage fees and booze (we would have to supply the booze for the bar rather than just have the venue operate a cash bar). These people have seen him living out of his truck because of his drinking (I didn't know him at that point) It boggles my effin mind how some people are!!! I've lost one hell of a lot of respect for my FIL's over this, to the point I'm steps away from saying that perhaps anyone that can't respect that FH's turned his life around and has chosen sobriety, maybe shouldn't be at the wedding. (I never would though, it would hurt him for his family not to be there, and there's not a thing in the world I could do to hurt this guy)
Just needed to vent (already let off steam beating up a pillow while the kids slept)
This so far is my only real wedding stress...I went into the planning deciding that there is nothing THAT important to turn Bridezilla over...however I think I may have found one.