Where does the groom go...?

[TwelveGrains]

How does the groom usually get to the altar? DH and I were discussing this last night and couldn't come up with a solution. He said that he's supposed to walk down the aisle, but that doesn't sound right to me. Doesn't the groom usually just come through a side door to the altar or something so he's already there waiting for the bride? And what about at an outdoor wedding like ours?? :confused: HELP!!

[kelusa]

well he can come through the side with the minister. Some like to walk the mothers (yours and his...or just his) down the aisle before the wedding party come. Some walk down with there bride. It's up to you guys what you like!! Its your day :)

[colkenwedding]

We're having an outdoor wedding too, and while I haven't quite figured out the processional, I think that he's going to walk down the aisle with either his mom or both moms. As long as he doesn't see me, I'm happy.

[always143681]

from what I've seen groom do walk down the aisle too just not the grand entrance like the bride. I think some even walk with their mom down the aisle.

[BernieA]

We are having our wedding in an atrium and FH is meeting me half way up the stairs to walk me the rest of the way (my Father won't be there as he has passed away)
I think now days there are really no set rules for things like this it all depends on the couple, the setting and what you can come up with.
For example I have seen a wedding video where they signed their papers on the back of a Harley - it looked great and cause the Harley is such a part of their lives they wnted it to be included.

[LauraAA]

I have seen it a bunch of different ways.


Sometimes the groom & groomsmen will walk up the alter before everyone else.
Sometimes the groom & groomsmen will walk to the alter from a side entrance.
Sometimes the groom & groomsmen will already be at the alter when the guests arrive.
Sometimes the groom will walk up the alter with his parents.


I think it is really a personal preference… whatever FH is comfortable doing. I think that Jamie wants to be waiting at the alter or walk in thru a side entrance.

[nickplusjessequalslove]

At our wedding my husband, the best man and groomsmen walked up there after everyone was seated (the groomsmen doubled as ushers so it worked perfect) and then everything went on from there!

[TwelveGrains]

Thanks for the ideas ladies! I'll talk it over with DH tonight and see what he wants to do... :)

[anschuier]

i don't know how i missed this, but FH is walking up the aisle with his parents.

[TwelveGrains]

So what do we do since his parents have both passed? Keep in mind that he doesn't like my parents. Should he walk alone?? Amander, what do you think about us walking down together?

[anschuier]

i LOVE that idea, actually. The only reason I'm not doing it that way is cuz I am a silly only child and my parents would KILL me if they both didn't walk me down together.

In fact, since you have a complicated situation, have your parents seated and then the two of you should walk together. Totally.

[Jacoby2Seelen]

Ric walked his Mom down the aisle, so he just stayed down there after that.
That was HIS choice too (surprised me) haha.

[Kendra1449]

Glen (the groom) is walking me (the mother) to be seated then stand at the alter.

[TwelveGrains]

I've asked some of my co-workers and they all seem to hate the idea of me and Rick walking to the altar together. The football coach came up with an alternative (that's right, the football coach) that I think we'll end up going with--Rick and the BM/GM are going to walk out the front door of our house and over to the altar and wait for me. I'll walk out the back door and around the house to walk down the aisle.

Here's a basic map of our house and ceremony seating stuff so you can get a better idea of what's going on.

http://www.theimageplace.net/uploads/dbed85f6f1.jpg

My problem is that everybody (DH included) seems to like the idea of him going out the front door to wait for me, but I really like the idea of us walking down the aisle together (especially since it eliminates the problem of my dad giving me away or not)... Should I go with what DH and everybody else wants or should I say, "This is my wedding, deal with it," and walk with DH down the aisle??? :confused:

[nickplusjessequalslove]

Honestly, I reaaaaally think you should do whatever makes you happy. Although you walking around the back of the house gives you a chance to come around the side of the house and have everyone ooh and ahh at you as you stand alone ready to walk down the aisle! BUT, it's YOUR day! DO what YOU want because that's the only thing that matters!!!!




I've asked some of my co-workers and they all seem to hate the idea of me and Rick walking to the altar together. The football coach came up with an alternative (that's right, the football coach) that I think we'll end up going with--Rick and the BM/GM are going to walk out the front door of our house and over to the altar and wait for me. I'll walk out the back door and around the house to walk down the aisle.

Here's a basic map of our house and ceremony seating stuff so you can get a better idea of what's going on.

http://www.theimageplace.net/uploads/dbed85f6f1.jpg

My problem is that everybody (DH included) seems to like the idea of him going out the front door to wait for me, but I really like the idea of us walking down the aisle together (especially since it eliminates the problem of my dad giving me away or not)... Should I go with what DH and everybody else wants or should I say, "This is my wedding, deal with it," and walk with DH down the aisle??? :confused:

[Jacoby2Seelen]

You say, "This is my wedding, everyone else deal with it."
After the fact, that isn't what they are going to be remembering anyway!!

[TwelveGrains]

If Rick and I walk together, we'll come from the back door and walk down the aisle together. Grrr... This is the only planning thing that has me confused...

[nickplusjessequalslove]

Why is it that you want to walk down the aisle with him so bad? Are you scared of walking down the aisle by yourself?

[Jacoby2Seelen]

I'll walk you down the aisle Lisa! :)

[TwelveGrains]

Thanks for the offer Trish! :D No, I'm not afraid to walk alone (I actually had planned on doing that until I found the idea of us walking together). I just think the idea is really unique and would make the day even more special because it's like we're going at this marriage thing together (regardless of the fact that we're already married). I don't want my dad to walk me because I don't feel it's appropriate for him to give me away because he has so alienated me in the last 2-3 years for not living the life he set out for me and because he doesn't approve of Rick. I want him to be at the wedding, but I don't want him to give me away--I'm not his to give anymore. (Sorry for all the drama!)

[nickplusjessequalslove]

Haha, no drama!

You should do whatever makes you happy. I think it would be cute if you guys did that. You guys are already married and like you said you're "going at it together".. I think it makes perfect sense!

[anschuier]

Haha, no drama!

You should do whatever makes you happy. I think it would be cute if you guys did that. You guys are already married and like you said you're "going at it together".. I think it makes perfect sense!


WHAT SHE SAID. whhoops, sorry caps. I say go for it. Nick and I were considering doing it, too! do what you want. i will beat up the audience if they have a problem with it.

[TwelveGrains]

Does that mean you're coming to my wedding?? Woot! I get Amander and Trish at my wedding! That will definately liven things up! :D

[TwelveGrains]

I don't think you'll need to be my bouncer though... In fact, I think I'd prefer none of my guests get beaten up--at least not at the wedding. But thanks for the offer!

[Jacoby2Seelen]

HE!! yeah. . .we are the ROOOOOAD trip wedding goers.

I think Amander and I should start our own Wedding Crasher business! WOOOHOOO!
hehe

[anschuier]

dude! now if we could just get paid for our efforts! :) i seriously should become a wedding planner...

[Jacoby2Seelen]

One of my best friends went to a wedding this weekend (just so happened to also be 4hours away), and she was the coordinator for the bride, and helped keep things together. She was telling me all about it at lunch today, so I told her that her and I should start our own wedding coordinator business. She said "REALLY?" Hmmmmmmmm. . . . .:confused: Maybe some day. (At least I wouldn't have to work for attorneys anymore! :D haha)

[TwelveGrains]

That would be so cool! You would be an awesome wedding chicka! :D