TwelveGrains
10-05-2005, 10:20 PM
Sorry, this is going to be really long... :(
I found out yesterday morning that FH was practically offered a job with a contracting company that moves from job-site to job-site, literally. The contractors are here in Bandon working on a job at the mill that Rick works at, but as soon as they're done here, they're heading up to Washington state for 2-3 months and then they're going down to southern California for about a year.
Now that we've been in Bandon for a while, I have fallen in love with this sleepy little town, and I love being on the coast, and I finally have a job that I love. The thought of leaving all of this to be constantly on the move just isn't appealing right now. We've talked about touring the country when we retire, but I want to be settled down for a few years first! I want to make some friends and have our wedding in our "home town". If we're always on the move, where are we going to have our wedding? How will out of town guests make plans if they don't know where we're going to be?
To top it off, I told my aunt/MOH that Rick is seriously thinking about taking this job, and she suggested that he might be running from something since it seems like he's always moving. Up until she suggested that, I just thought we were trying to find the right place to settle down, but since we've been together (and for about a year before we were together), he's only been in one place for 2-3 months at a time, so now I'm questioning Rick, which makes me feel like crap.
What do I do? :confused: I can't tell him not to take the job, because I don't want him to be unhappy at the job he has now and I want him to be successful and follow what he thinks is the best path for him. When it comes down to it, I'll follow him where ever he goes, but he has to know that I don't want to move again, right? HELP!!!
I found out yesterday morning that FH was practically offered a job with a contracting company that moves from job-site to job-site, literally. The contractors are here in Bandon working on a job at the mill that Rick works at, but as soon as they're done here, they're heading up to Washington state for 2-3 months and then they're going down to southern California for about a year.
Now that we've been in Bandon for a while, I have fallen in love with this sleepy little town, and I love being on the coast, and I finally have a job that I love. The thought of leaving all of this to be constantly on the move just isn't appealing right now. We've talked about touring the country when we retire, but I want to be settled down for a few years first! I want to make some friends and have our wedding in our "home town". If we're always on the move, where are we going to have our wedding? How will out of town guests make plans if they don't know where we're going to be?
To top it off, I told my aunt/MOH that Rick is seriously thinking about taking this job, and she suggested that he might be running from something since it seems like he's always moving. Up until she suggested that, I just thought we were trying to find the right place to settle down, but since we've been together (and for about a year before we were together), he's only been in one place for 2-3 months at a time, so now I'm questioning Rick, which makes me feel like crap.
What do I do? :confused: I can't tell him not to take the job, because I don't want him to be unhappy at the job he has now and I want him to be successful and follow what he thinks is the best path for him. When it comes down to it, I'll follow him where ever he goes, but he has to know that I don't want to move again, right? HELP!!!