Stag 'n Drag

[young037]

Did any of you girls have a Stag 'n Drag?

We're having ours three weeks before the wedding and will have this instead of the bridal shower and bachelorette/bachelor parties.

I just need some fun ideas for the shin-dig!! If you have any suggestions, let me know!! THANKS!

[clorigroh]

I'm not sure what that is hehe

[SoonToBeWed]

DH had a bachelore party in Atlantic City with a couple of his guy friends.

I didn't have a bachelorette party, never panned out.

[young037]

A stag `n drag is where the couple has a big party to raise money for the wedding or honeymoon. Generally, it`s an all-day affair and you tend to have games or drawings to help entice people to give money. Examples would be 50/50 tickets, scratch off`s, 50 cent shots, chinese auction, etc. You don`t have to just invite the guest list... Anyone you`d like to come and be there. The more, the merrier!! It`s usually not an elegant affair, either. A barbeque or picnic styled stag n` drag is common. The parties are thrown anywhere from 2 months before the wedding to two week before.

[futts5]

Hmmm never heard of this. Me personally, I would take it as "tacky", but maybe I'm taking it the wrong way because I've never seen one.

I say, if a couple doesn't have a ton of money for a wedding, do something private and intimate.

[clorigroh]

A stag `n drag is where the couple has a big party to raise money for the wedding or honeymoon. Generally, it`s an all-day affair and you tend to have games or drawings to help entice people to give money. Examples would be 50/50 tickets, scratch off`s, 50 cent shots, chinese auction, etc. You don`t have to just invite the guest list... Anyone you`d like to come and be there. The more, the merrier!! It`s usually not an elegant affair, either. A barbeque or picnic styled stag n` drag is common. The parties are thrown anywhere from 2 months before the wedding to two week before.

that sounds interesting, thanks for the explanation

[serawhim]

It sounds like a fun party! I think I'd probably keep the invite list limited to those who would be invited to the wedding, but that's just me. :p All of your ideas for the party sound like good ones! :)

[mikeandjess100]

Where are you from to call it a "Stag n Drag"......We call it a Stag n' Doe or I have heard it called a Buck N' Doe. And yes, it is a fundraiser to raise money for the bride and groom. If we weren't going to have one people always ask why. It is a very common thing around here (London/St.Thomas/Aylmer/Woodstock area).

[mikeandjess100]

We also have lots of games to intice people to play and then also lots of door prizes, it's just one big party. It usually turns out to be a high school reunion, which can sometimes be a blast. It's the thing to do around here!

[kobfield2007]

Hmmm never heard of this. Me personally, I would take it as "tacky", but maybe I'm taking it the wrong way because I've never seen one.

I say, if a couple doesn't have a ton of money for a wedding, do something private and intimate.

This is a tradition elsewhere. It sounds interesting. But why is it lately, whenever something doesn't meet the norm, it's tacky. I'm not just point out you Futts, but that's been in a few posts by other people.

Anyways, it sounds cool. I wish I could've done soemthing like that here. :) If I think of anything, I'll post. But I'm at work and I'm crawing blanks. :)

[karentinks]

This is a tradition elsewhere. It sounds interesting. But why is it lately, whenever something doesn't meet the norm, it's tacky. I'm not just point out you Futts, but that's been in a few posts by other people.


It's not whenever aaanything doesn't meet the norm, it's usually money related. Money is a touchy/sensitive subject :)

[ChrisandAmanda]

I know it as a Stag n Doe. It is a great way to rasie money for the wedding. They are so popular over here. Almost every couple has one and it is not by invitation. It really is an excuse to party for some.

As for some ideas. You could have poker games going on and the house (you guys) get a cut of every pot like fifty cents or something.

You could also have a jar of beer caps and the people pay a dollar to guess the amount in there and the winner gets a bottle of booze.

We have a twooney toss where a 60 of booze is on the floor and peple have to stand from a line and throw twooneys at it and the closest person wins the bottle and you keep all the twooneys.

Stags are so much fun.. I love going to them and good luck with yours.

By all means it is NOT tacky. It may not be old fashioned but it is something widely accepted by this generation.

[ChrisandAmanda]

It is the word "tacky". It is a very negative word. It is kind of insulting when something you are doing is considered tacky by someone else..
The didctionary describes tacky as not having or exhibiting good taste.
There are nice ways of saying you would not do something and calling it tacky is not a nice way.

[karentinks]

It is the word "tacky". It is a very negative word. It is kind of insulting when something you are doing is considered tacky by someone else..
The didctionary describes tacky as not having or exhibiting good taste.
There are nice ways of saying you would not do something and calling it tacky is not a nice way.

It's also just an opinion. The problem here is different cultures. Take the Dollar Dance, for example. For those who don't know, it's a Polish tradition where people dance with the bride and groom for money. Polish people are quite fond of this tradition, it is the norm for them, and they see absolutely nothing wrong with it (I am marrying into a Polish family, so I've been told of this). Other people have NEVER heard of this tradition, and see it as a way to get more money from their guests who are already spending money to be at their wedding. One person's tacky is another person's tradition. No one is going to agree on everything, especially in areas where weddings and money collide.

[ChrisandAmanda]

I agree different areas have different traditions and wedding parties. All I am saying is that is it something you would not personally do there are nicer words to use to say that. I just find the word tacky offensive. Maybe not everyone does.

[msgoody2]

I say all of these traditions sound interesting and unique and they are a great way to bring people together. Just have fun, there's no need to be super serious about everything concerning the wedding. Sometimes you just have to sit back, relax, and play a game every now and then. Esp. when there are traditions involved. I wish that I could do that dollar dance but its not traditional in my family (by the way they also do that in African cultures).