Who gets ther name in the invite?!

[rhiannon0320]

Okay, I have question on wording the invites. It's kinda...sticky.

We aren't sure yet how much my parents are contributing. So far they have agreed to pay for the ceremony site and the reception hall. They may be chipping in for the caterer and the photographer, but they want to see prices/menus/packages and so on (it really makes it hard to set a budget that way...).

Anywho, question. He/we are currently not speaking to his mother and his father passed away. I'm sure we'll end up paying for a good portion of what's left ourselves and really we are hosting since my family lives int he Midwest and all points West and we are here on the East coast. So how in the world should I word the invites? (Yeah, I know, early, but I want an idea of how much text I am going to have in the page so I can start playing around with graphics.)

[SoonToBeWed]

Mr & Mrs. Parents would like to invite you to the wedding of their daughter X to X on x date at x location at x time.

[rhiannon0320]

Mr & Mrs. Parents would like to invite you to the wedding of their daughter X to X on x date at x location at x time.

That just sounds so...formal? I know weddings are formal events but it just sounds cold or something. But all the creative, casual phrases on versit.com were kind of cheesy.

[Bianca]

Ours said something like "Together with our families, Jamie and Bianca invite you to celebrate...." We felt it important to include family (not necessarily parents only), but since we paid for it ourselves, we wanted to take that role as host.

[LaurieAnn]

Ours said something like "Together with our families, Jamie and Bianca invite you to celebrate...." We felt it important to include family (not necessarily parents only), but since we paid for it ourselves, we wanted to take that role as host.

I like that idea of saying "families"...

We aren't putting any parents names on since we are paying for the wedding ourselves

[rhiannon0320]

I'd love to do that...I just thought it might sound weird since neither of his parents will be there.

[Bianca]

Both of Jamie's parents passed away shortly before the wedding, so our situations are similar. I think the wording we chose was perfect because it says families and not parents. He still has his grandma, brother and plenty of other family that has been there for us through the years. Obviously, it's just a matter of opinion. It was important to me to include family because ours have been there for us through it all.

[maeberha]

My wording is below. I did it that way so that way it's still including both parents, but since techically my parents are paying for everything, it still follows etiquette


http://usera.imagecave.com/maeberhardt/invite.jpg

[rhiannon0320]

Both of Jamie's parents passed away shortly before the wedding. I think it was perfect because it says families and not parents. He still has his grandma, brother and plenty of other family that has been there for us through the years. Obviously, it's just a matter of opinion. It was important to me to include family because ours have been there for us through it all.

True, his aunts and uncles will be there. His cousin has really been there for us through all of this with his dad. It's really great how families can come together when they need each other. :)

[shawnswoman]

The persons named on the invitations are those who are hosting the wedding. "Hosting" does not necessarily mean paying. Like any other party, paying is part of being a host; a bigger part is doing all the planning.

I like "together with their families;" I also think it's fine not to list parents at all if you & your fiance are hosting your own wedding.

[maeberha]

I just saw this in a mag:

With joyful hearts
we ask you to be present
at the ceremony uniting
----
and
----
on so-and-so

[rhiannon0320]

I just saw this in a mag:

With joyful hearts
we ask you to be present
at the ceremony uniting
----
and
----
on so-and-so

Oh I love that! In part because we are doing a handfasting as part of our ceremony so it sounds a little better to me.