Originally Posted by Sweetpea0104
Trying to choose a wedding party was extremely hard for us. We didn't want a really big bridal party; no more than 6 ppl on each side. Most weddings I've been in have had 10 bridesmaids & 10 groomsmen plus ring bearers, flowergirls, etc. That's too many in my opinion.
Then we were having issues with relatives expecting to be in the bridal party, and my mom & I arguing about which cousins would be in it. Oh the arguments. My fiance didn't want his brother in it b/c they're not close but his mom told him "That's my only wish for your wedding...to have your bro as your groomsman."
So FH & I decided to just have our parents standing up at the front with us. It solved all our bridal party problems & it actually means more to us. Our parents brought us into this world, have raised us, and now they'll be standing by our sides as we become husband & wife.
Really cool idea.
I once thought of asking my dad but am not going to.
I mean we're close but we butt heads on a lot of things. This wedding is one. I'm very independent and don't like to rely on people. Thats an issue around here as my older brother and younger sister and not like that at all.
Seeing how I want to pay for it all so that I can have people that I want there and not feel like I need to invite people just because my parent's want to their kids weddings 15 years ago. Know what I mean.
I mean, if I'm going to go in debt to pay for this wedding I at least what to have the most say with Susan as to who comes.
Its hard to pick a wedding party. We really need to just sit down and write out our options and go from there. But I def. will not stand for any pressure from family.
We'll get it figured out.
I had it in with my mom as I'm not picking my brother either. We're not close at all and we barely see each other so there is no point in my eyes to do it just because.