Mother in Law problems?

FutureMrsLueke · #1 05-25-2006, 03:33 PM

Is anyone else getting frustrated with their future Mother in Law. Our wedding isn't until next summer and I'm already about to hurt her.

It's not even about wedding stuff (well not too much lol), its about stupid things like her expecting my fiance to spend time with his family instead of me. Like come on, I'm gonna be is wife in a year.

Mind you this is the same women who introduced me as his very good friend after we'd been dating for 3 years!!!

I just need to vent a little I guess and to know I'm not the only one with these problems

lol

anschuier · #2 05-25-2006, 03:50 PM

omg! you are totally not! i don't even want to get started on what all it involves, but you are not alone!

Jacoby2Seelen · #3 05-25-2006, 04:21 PM

I LOVE my MIL, we are so close!

It depends on if I understand where she is coming from or not, regarding the spending more time with the family than you. Reason being, when I first started dating Hubby, I was upset to hear that his mom expected Hubby to be at her house EVERY Christmas, and miss out on my family Christmas. It is STILL hard, but I have come to sorts with realizing that it is okay that she expects it. That is because she lives 1000+ miles away, and she gets to see Hubby maybe twice a year, if that. The one time that she does get to see him is Christmas, and she pays for the plane tickets for us to come there (she only pays for mine now that we are married).

Anyway, the point I'm trying to make is, if they live far apart, and they only get to see each other a few times a year, then I can understand. If they live close, and she is expecting that, that is a whole different story!

I just hope that things work out for you. . .sometimes it is hard when new families come into your life and they aren't the most cooperative. I have learned to just get along with all of mine, because it makes my life AND hubby's life a lot easier.

On that note. . . I LOVE all my in-laws now. . .and couldn't be happier with the in-laws I got "stuck with." haha

FutureMrsLueke · #4 05-25-2006, 04:37 PM

No they live like 4 blocks away. And the Christmas thing is totally understandable. This is for stupid things like FH brother wanted him to go golfing last night on the spur of the moment. FH's back was sore and he said no, and of course this means that FH is horrible.
FH's brother also just had a new baby, FH isn't totally comfortable with him yet because he's still small. Also FH and I refuse to push ourselves on his Brother and sisInlaw because they're still adjusting and baby is colicky. So of course because we're not poking the baby and trying to wake him up like FMIL then he obviously doesnt' love his nephew.
It's just silly stuff. And mostly the spending time with his family comes down to going over there to do work for them.

Jacoby2Seelen · #5 05-25-2006, 04:39 PM

OH, okay. . . now that is DUMB!!! haha

I would say, just try your best to get along with her. . .that way it makes your life, as well as hubby's, easier!

I know it is hard sometimes, but that is what I have learned these past few years. Even though she is just recently my MIL, and before was just "my boyfriend's mother." YA KNOW.

Jacoby2Seelen · #6 05-25-2006, 04:40 PM

I have also learned, from the beginning, that even if she is doing silly things like that, do not talk about her to hubby "badly". . .that just makes things worse too!!!

FutureMrsLueke · #7 05-25-2006, 04:57 PM

Actually he's the one that usually does the bad talking, you should have heard him last night lol.

TwelveGrains · #8 05-25-2006, 05:46 PM

DH's parents both passed away before we got together, so I didn't even get to meet them. I really wish I had, because Rick was very close to his dad.

I hope it all works out--maybe as you get closer it will be easier. You guys sound like the Barone's from Everybody Loves Raymond. I don't mean that in a bad way (I LOVE that show!), I'm just hoping to make you smile...

FutureMrsLueke · #9 05-25-2006, 09:51 PM

OMG we totally do! That's insane. Fortunately Jon isnt as bad as Raymond with putting his foot in his mouth

lmao

crannberryjenn · #10 05-26-2006, 01:36 AM

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Originally Posted by FutureMrsLueke

Is anyone else getting frustrated with their future Mother in Law. Our wedding isn't until next summer and I'm already about to hurt her.

It's not even about wedding stuff (well not too much lol), its about stupid things like her expecting my fiance to spend time with his family instead of me. Like come on, I'm gonna be is wife in a year.

Mind you this is the same women who introduced me as his very good friend after we'd been dating for 3 years!!!

I just need to vent a little I guess and to know I'm not the only one with these problems

lol

I understand how you are feeling. My FMIL and FFIL try and control my FH. It drives me crazy. I really do feel like bunching them out sometimes.